If you’ve ever had an adolescent son (or been one), you know a boy ‘s best friend is the one with whom he trades wit-covered put-downs. Why is the put-down trade the commerce of male adolescence? And why is this male pattern flaw finding so damaging? The put-down trade is our adolescent son’s rehearsal for […]
Месяц: Сентябрь 2015
Forming and Formalising Relationships
Given the emphasis that many of our couples placed on the ordinary, and the enduring nature of the relating ideals and values that they had grown up with, as discussed in Chapter 3, it is perhaps unsurprising that they should choose to ‘marry’. However, while the majority of partners saw their entry into civil partnership […]
Why the male role is so life depleting
When boys and girls are young (1 to 4), boys die only slightly more frequently than girls. Once adult sex roles are experienced — between ages 15 and 24 — men die at a rate more than three times that of women.21 The male role, then, might be thought of as being about three times […]
How Important Is a Dad, Really?
Colleen, an artist, had her baby girl just shy of her fortieth birthday. The man who fathered her child was Colleen’s long-term lover. She never really thought about the implications of his involvement (or lack of involvement) with that child when she became pregnant, but she knew she didn’t want to be his wife. When […]
Problem Solving
One of the most important ways in which people use their intellectual abilities is to solve problems. Think for a minute about everyday life and the number of problem-solving situations one encounters in school, on the job, in relationships, driving a car, and so forth. Each of these settings requires one to analyze complex situations […]
THE RIPPLE EFFECT OF GENDER CODES
Gender culture is a matter of beliefs about manhood and womanhood, and of emotional anchors attached to these beliefs. Many discrete beliefs, such as “a woman’s place is in the home,” can be understood as positions on central cultural rules about gender honor. The traditional person in Anglo — Saxon, Hispanic, and Asian American cultures […]
THE RIPPLE EFFECT OF GENDER CODES
Gender culture is a matter of beliefs about manhood and womanhood, and of emotional anchors attached to these beliefs. Many discrete beliefs, such as “a woman’s place is in the home,” can be understood as positions on central cultural rules about gender honor. The traditional person in Anglo — Saxon, Hispanic, and Asian American cultures […]
Decision Making
A cursory look at the decision making literature initially suggests that older adults demonstrate less effective decision making when the decisionmaking situation is novel and unfamiliar to them (Chasseigne et al., 1997; Finucane et al., 2002; Mutter & Pliske, 1994; Sanfey & Hastie, 2000). Forexample, older adults have difficulty in deciding how water temperature is […]
Chancing Pregnancy
Clearly, marriage does not a mother or father make. Women in this chapter who chance pregnancy by using inconsistent contraception believe, however, that if it does not take a marriage to become a mom, the same logic should apply to the fathers of their children. The cultural climate has changed, and children, not marriage, determine […]
ROMANCE, INTIMACY,. AND PREGNANCY
Father Involvement Outside of Marriage Ellen Hammond I spent my twenties bouncing around Europe. I met someone, got married in Amsterdam, and just in time for my twenty-third birthday, I got pregnant. I wasn’t ready to be a mom at that point, to tell you the truth… so I, we, aborted the pregnancy. Two years […]