Saying no in clear, unmistakable language is essential to the success of the strategy just outlined. Nevertheless, when it comes to sexual intimacy, many of us sometimes send mixed messages about what we do and do not want. Consider, for example, someone who responds positively to a partner’s request for sexual intimacy but then spends […]
День: 07.11.2015
THE OLDEST PROFESSION?
Prostitution may have originated as a respectable and spiritual transaction between priestesses and priests in Babylonian temples. It was designed to bring them closer to God, with no money changing hands. The first brothels were probably in Egypt, but they evidently became popular in ancient Greece, where prostitutes, mostly women and teenage boys, were obliged […]
The Inadequacies of Contraception
Sterilization By the late 1970s in the United States, surgical sterilization had become the most prevalent form of contraception among women over the age of twenty-five.21 A good deal has been written about sterilization, and my purpose here is not to analyze it in depth but to understand the nature of its relationship to abortion. […]
Interviewees’ responses to the legal ascription of motherhood
That’s another one of the issues that came up at the clinic. . . the secrecy [about the use of donor sperm]. There’s an element of secrecy about it in that normally it’s heterosexual couples, and the husband will be the legal father. And of course we [Sarah and her partner Kate] can’t pretend that […]
The Strategic Yes
A key nexus of working smarter not harder and being a savvy self-promoter is to focus on the high-profile assignments that your boss really cares about. That’s how you get the biggest bang. And in learning to recognize those moments, you will come to see that occasionally there are assignments that might threaten to wreak […]
Parental Influences
Parents, of course, are typically considered the major influence in the socialization of girls for their gender and sexual roles. Various background factors, including cultural norms, religious beliefs, and social class mores, result in differential expectations. Beginning with gender assignment at birth and the subsequent experience of growing up as a boy or girl, researchers […]
A Three-Step Approach to Saying No
Many people have found it helpful to have a definite plan or strategy in mind for saying no to invitations for intimate involvements. Having such a strategy can help you prevent being caught off guard, not knowing how to handle a potentially unpleasant interaction with tact. One approach you may find helpful involves three distinct […]
MASTURBATION
While masturbation by adolescents is now routinely acknowledged as a common, “phase-appropriate behavior”, curiously it is rarely scrutinized for either its contents or its dynamics. Where masturbation has been directly addressed, as in Blos (1962), Laufer (1976) or Kaplan (1988), it is viewed as necessary, useful, and risk-laden. It is necessary, as Laufer points out, […]
PREADOLESCENT GIRLS: SOCIALIZATION OF GENDER
More than 20 years ago Anne Beuf (1974) questioned 3- and 4-year olds about their aspirations. She asked them what they wanted to be when they grew up. The intention of this and subsequent studies was to dem onstrate the differences in sex-typed goals and aspirations. Such research also demonstrated the child’s view of their […]
Promote Thyself
Would it make sense to give away Nobel Prizes anonymously? Are Pulitzer winners kept under wraps? Do CEOs who navigate a successful merger hide the fact? No, of course not. And for good reason. The world likes winners And self-promotion is a basic part of business life. Informing others of a success is just as […]