Before I describe the data that I rely on it is important to make a comment on methodological issues associated with the measurement of ‘unmet need’. I have used surveys to assess reproductive processes in my own work, however, because of my experiences with surveys, I find it important that careful consideration be given to the usefulness of surveys (alone) for the measurement of processes involved in (reproductive) decision-making. While surveys are useful for providing cross-sectional data (and even longitudinal data), they have limitations when it comes to providing insights into what goes on between couples and how. The discrepancies between survey and interview responses among the same sample highlight these limitations. In the ensuing discussion I use the example of my own survey data, modelled along the lines of the DHS, as well as case stories, to show how surveys can both over — and understate the extent of ‘unmet need’, as well as reverse the identity of the partner who actually has the ‘unmet need’. The case of