We discussed in Chapter 6 how true communication begins with listening. Nothing shows you care about another person quite as much as your full attention. Who is more of a bore than a person who talks only of him — or herself, who sees any comment made
by another person primarily in terms of how it relates to him or her? Learning to truly listen enhances intimacy.
Affection
Do you want to learn to display affection? Watch a loving parent with his or her child. Parents attend to their children, smile at them, touch them in affectionate ways, look in their eyes, and hug and kiss them. Most people want the same things from their intimate friends and lovers. Affection shows that you feel a sense of warmth and security with your partner.