With these starting points, I propose that many best-selling advice books published in recent years have become cooler in their approach to intimate life. They reflect a cultural cooling. This does not mean that individuals need one another less, only that they are invited to manage their needs more. The trend also reflects a paradox. […]

With these starting points, I propose that many best-selling advice books published in recent years have become cooler in their approach to intimate life. They reflect a cultural cooling. This does not mean that individuals need one another less, only that they are invited to manage their needs more. The trend also reflects a paradox. […]

Signs from Women’s Advice Books Praising and encouraging are very dose to pushing, and when you do that you are trying again to take control of his. Think about why you are lauding something he’s done. Is it to help raise his self­esteem? That’s manipulation. Is it so he will continue whatever behavior you’re praising? […]

Signs from Women’s Advice Books Praising and encouraging are very dose to pushing, and when you do that you are trying again to take control of his. Think about why you are lauding something he’s done. Is it to help raise his self­esteem? That’s manipulation. Is it so he will continue whatever behavior you’re praising? […]

This, then, was my first discovery that my thoughts—over the years—have focused on various facets of care. But in thinking about these essays, I also began to wonder what hidden compass in my own personal life might account for my strong interest in care. And there I made a second discov­ery. Like many white middle-class […]

This, then, was my first discovery that my thoughts—over the years—have focused on various facets of care. But in thinking about these essays, I also began to wonder what hidden compass in my own personal life might account for my strong interest in care. And there I made a second discov­ery. Like many white middle-class […]

Lore has it that a person without a compass, tramping a long distance in the wilderness, will slowly veer sideways, make a circle, and end up where she began. When I first laid out these essays on the blue rug in my study, starting with the first essay I thought to include and ending with […]

Lore has it that a person without a compass, tramping a long distance in the wilderness, will slowly veer sideways, make a circle, and end up where she began. When I first laid out these essays on the blue rug in my study, starting with the first essay I thought to include and ending with […]

I am pleased to see these essays gathered between two covers. While each essay describes how I see things now, ideas breathe and grow, and I hope these do too. And so I offer them as works in progress. For the process of getting them this far, I owe many thanks all around. To my […]

I am pleased to see these essays gathered between two covers. While each essay describes how I see things now, ideas breathe and grow, and I hope these do too. And so I offer them as works in progress. For the process of getting them this far, I owe many thanks all around. To my […]