As pointed out in the online dating model, determining ‘physical chemistry’ or ‘sexual attraction’ does not usually take place until the couple meet face-to-face. Off-line flirting usually takes places because one or both individuals find the other physically attractive. Individuals probably do not make it to the interaction phase if there is not at least […]
Рубрика: Gender and. Social Computing
Self-Disclosures: Too Much Too Soon?
One of the most popular theories to explain relationship development is socialpenetration theory (Altman & Taylor, 1973). Social penetration theory is an incremental theory which argues that relationships move to greater levels of intimacy over time. According to this theory, how greater intimacy is achieved is typically through depth and breadth of self-disclosure. Breadth of […]
The First Date: Safer but More Clinical
As explained earlier, for online daters the first date is usually set up in a public space for a restricted amount of time. People using these sites do so as they are aware that they are meeting strangers and they are cautious of the type of people they might be meeting. They are also unlikely […]
STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES OF ONLINE DATING
This chapter now turns to the pros and cons of finding a romantic partner via an online dating site. It does so by paying particular attention to the five phases outlined above. Flirting on the Net As explained earlier, off-line flirting consists of a gamut of non-verbal behaviors. Moving through Givens’ phases partly requires an […]
Phase 5: Resolution
As with Givens’ five stages of courting, resolution is the final stage of the online dating courting process. After the first meeting, individuals know whether they are sexually attracted to and whether they want to learn more about their date. If they are still uncertain, they might set up a couple more dates; however, they […]
Phase 4: The Face-to-Face Meeting
The fourth phase is roughly equivalent to Givens’ fourth stage titled the ‘sexual arousal’ stage. For online daters, the first date very much determines if there will be any further dates. This meeting is different to a ‘traditional’ first date where sexual attraction has already been established and the couple plan to spend a romantic […]
Phase 3: The Interaction Phase
Similar to off-line, the next phase in the online dating courting process involves interaction. This of course takes place online. It might initially take place through: an exchange of e-mails via the site; a site’s instant messaging program; personal e-mail accounts; or an instant messaging program found off the site. It might then move on […]
Phase 1: The Attention Phase
During the ‘attention phase’, off-line a person (usually the woman) will try to attract a person of the opposite sex by displaying subtle non-verbal signals. With online dating, one does not have an immediate target to display subtle interest in. Instead, the person displays signs of attraction by selecting an attractive photograph to represent themselves. […]
THE FIVE PHASES OF ONLINE DATING
Theorists have devised models to explain formal matchmaking services, such as personal ads, video dating and computer matchmaking. Ahuvia and Adelman (1992), for example, have devised the SMI model (searching, matching, and interacting model). They parallel matchmaking services with basic market functions. For instance, in the market place initially ‘searching’ is required, that is, gaining […]
Flirtation
Flirtatious behavior is evident throughout the early phases that Givens has delineated. Success in finding a potential partner off-line might be in some ways attributed to how skilled an individual is at flirting. Moore (1985) observed individuals in bars and identified 52 facial expressions and gestures that women display when they flirt. Although these actions […]