Facial expressions often communicate the feelings a person is experiencing. Although people’s expressions certainly vary, most of us have learned to accurately identify particular emotions from facial expressions. The rapport and intimacy between lovers can further increase the reliability of this skill.
„ Looking at our lovers’ faces during sexual activity often gives us a quick reading of their level of pleasure. If we see a look of complete rapture, we are likely to continue providing the same type of stimulation. However, if the look conveys I something less than ecstasy, we may decide to try something different or ask our partners for verbal direction.
Facial expressions can also provide helpful cues when talking over sexual concerns with a partner. If a lover’s face reflects anger, anxiety, or some other disruptive emotion, it might be wise to deal with this emotion immediately ("I can tell you are angry. Can we talk about it?"). Conversely, a face that shows interest, enthusiasm, or appreciation can encourage us to continue expressing a particular feeling or concern. It is also a good idea to be aware of the nonverbal messages you are giving when your partner is sharing thoughts or feelings with you. Sometimes we inadvertently shut down potentially helpful dialogue by tightening our jaws or frowning at an inappropriate time.