What’s It Like to Be a Woman in China?
Sexual intercourse in marriage is a good religious deed for the Muslim male, and the Koran likens wives to fields that men should cultivate as frequently as they want. All forms of sexuality, including anal and oral sex, are permissible. A man with a strong sex drive is advised to marry many wives, even more than the normal limit of four (Burgel, 1979). Islam restricts sex to the marital union exclusively, and when this is not adhered to, extreme measures are taken.
In traditional Islamic communities, women who were married to wealthy men usually lived in secluded areas in their husbands’ homes, called harems. Harems were not the dens of sex and sensuality that are sometimes portrayed but, rather, were self-contained communities where women learned to become self-sufficient in the absence of men. Among the middle and lower classes, men had less wealth to offer potential wives, which gave women more power.
Islamic society has had a much freer, more open attitude to sexuality than Christian society. Erotic and love writings from medieval Islam are very common, and some of the books are quite explicit. There are many Arab love poems that are clearly sexually charged poems about the love of boys (Roth, 1991), for, like Greeks, Arabs celebrated young boys as the epitome of beauty and allowed sexual contact between men and boys.
The Sultans of the Ottoman Empire, which ruled most of the Islamic world from the 15th to the 20th century, had between 300 and 1,200 concubines, mostly captured or bought slaves. The Sultan’s mother ruled the harem and even sometimes ruled the empire itself if she was strong and her son was weak-willed (Tannahill, 1980). Because each woman might sleep with the Sultan once or twice a year at most, eunuchs (YOU-niks) were employed to guard against the women finding sexual satisfaction elsewhere. Some eunuchs had their testicles removed, some their penises, and some both; young eunuchs might have their testicles crushed. Many died under the surgeon’s knife.