People with psychiatric disorders have sexual fantasies, needs, and feelings, and they have the same right to a fulfilling sexual expression as do others. However, historically they have either been treated as asexual, or their sexuality has been viewed as illegiti-
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ndy: For a while, sure I felt bad [about breaking up with previous partner], but I went on and picked myself up, and I feel this [relationship with Carol] will be better for me. It’s doing me a lot of good so far, and I hope she feels that way. For me, I don’t want to lose her.
Carol: I’m looking for the same thing he’s looking for— security. I thought I had it in the past, but I didn’t. [Security is] being with each other and having the ability to talk to one another.
Al: She means everything to me. As soon as I get my divorce—put this in the book—I’ll marry her.
Bev: No matter how good or bad the situation is, he’s there for me, loving me—letting me know he loves me. Like everything else, you have to find your own way of intimacy. There’s nothing that I can give to Al that he can’t give back to me. It’s mutual.
Earl: Some people don’t look at it [an older person’s sex life] as [important and healthy]. "Oh, that dirty, dirty old man!" [He’s 65, she’s 33.] I’m sick and tired of listening to that "dirty old man" talk! I think it’s wrong when they say that. What the man needs is love, just like I’m giving Gina. Love makes me feel happier. But a lot of people don’t understand it because not only am I older—I’m handicapped. I say to hell with that! Handicap or no handicap, we’re all human. We’re all human.
Gina: Above all, he has an inner strength in him that has reflected on me and gotten through to me so that I’m more able to cope with life. He has a much better inner strength than I have seen in any other person. I can talk with him about anything and everything under the sun, and he can make me feel so much better and so much more at ease.
Source: Stehle, 1985.
oping a sex life difficult. Institutions differ greatly in the amount of sexual contact they allow; some allow none whatsoever, whereas others allow mutually consenting sexual contact, with the staff carefully overseeing the patients’ contraceptive and hygienic needs (Trudel & Desjardins, 1992). Whether people with severe mental illness can consent to mutual sex in an institutional setting is a difficult question (Kaeser, 1992).
Another aspect of institutional life involves the sexual exploitation of patients with mental illness or mental retardation. This is well known but seldom discussed by those who work in such institutions. About half of all women in psychiatric hospitals report having been abused as children or adolescents, and many are then abused in a hospital or other institutional setting. Children who grow up with developmental disabilities are between four and ten times more likely to be abused than children without those difficulties (Baladerian, 1991). Therefore, it is difficult to separate the sexual problems of retardation, developmental disability, and psychiatric illness from histories of sexual abuse (Apfel & Handel, 1993; Monat-Haller, 1992).