Purpose: To sensitively explore each other’s body, learn touch prefer­ences, and broaden the range of pleasurable experiences. Suggested Time: 30 minutes or longer Wear whatever is comfortable, whether it is loose clothing, under­wear, or no clothing at all. Being nude makes it easier to feel each other’s touch, but if you are concerned about the […]

It is so important for every adult, especially those who have been in­volved with porn, to learn to give and receive sensual pleasure with a partner in a way that does not have genital arousal and orgasm as its immediate goal. Being sensual with a partner can heighten physical ful­fillment, allow your partner to feel […]

Purpose: To improve your ability to communicate with touch and in­terpret what kind of touch you are receiving from your partner. Materials: Two pencils and two sheets of paper Suggested Time: 20 to 30 minutes Sit facing your partner’s back and write down in any order you choose the following four types of touch: "Playful," […]

Touch has been called the true language of sex. From the first gentle grazing of fingertips to sexual intercourse, touch is how we form an intimate bond with a partner and experience a wide variety of physi­cal pleasures. Your ability to communicate different positive moods and messages with touch can greatly enhance your sexual experiences. […]

Purpose: To practice communicating feelings of love through your eyes. Suggested Time: Several minutes Imagine that your eyes are windows to your heart. Look at your part­ner while focusing on your feelings of love and appreciation. Let those feelings move up from your heart and out through your eyes. Smile and make eye contact every […]

The eyes have been called the initial organ of romance. Gazing at a lover can trigger a smile of interest and activate the courtship dance. Your visual sense also plays a key role in stimulating and maintaining sexual desire. Former porn users are often challenged in their ability to comfortably use these natural and positive […]

Purpose: To increase awareness of your senses, experiment with sensory stimulation, discover what kind of sensory experienc­es you like, and remain relaxed and present during sensory arousal. Suggested Time: 10 to 20 minutes Collect a variety of small, preferably natural objects, such as rocks, seashells, spices, fabric of different textures, pine cones, fresh flow­ers, and […]

Your ability to be intimate in sex increases when you are able to be aware of and enjoy all of your senses—sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch. A full range of sensory experiences is a dynamic resource that you can use to enhance sexual pleasure. And, when you have the capacity to tune into any […]

• What do you enjoy most about sex? What feelings do you hope to experience when you are sexual? What do you identify as the purpose and meaning of sex in your life? • How do you feel about yourself as a sexual person? How has porn influenced your sexuality? • What past experiences may […]

Good verbal communication is an important component of intimate sex. Talking openly about sex enables you and your partner to learn about each other’s sexual likes and dislikes, effectively address differences in preferences and needs, explore new sexual activities, and resolve any problems that might arise. Communication is the most effective way to ensure sexual […]