Probably the most important mental preparation you can do to stay mo­tivated to successfully break free of the porn trap is to take full respon­sibility for your own recovery. It’s very difficult to stay motivated if you believe you are quitting for someone else, or because you’ve been pres­sured into the decision and don’t feel […]

Put a check (S) next to each item with which you agree: __ I’m afraid of becoming depressed. __ I’m afraid of getting angry and upset. __ I’m afraid of feeling lonely. __ I’m afraid of getting stressed out. __ I’m afraid I won’t be able to masturbate without it. __ I’m afraid of losing […]

One of the reasons so many porn users start to feel ambivalent about their decision to quit porn, and lose motivation to continue the healing journey, is fear. Fear is a common emotion that arises when someone tries to quit porn. The idea of making any kind of major life change and facing the unknown […]

__ who is honest and trustworthy. __ who keeps my word and follows through with my commitments. __ who values others through both my words and my actions. __ who loves with my heart as well as my sexual desire. __ who has a high degree of integrity. __ who spends time in productive and […]

The following questions can help you identify your values, beliefs, and goals. In answering these questions in writing, you can become more consciously aware of what’s important to you. Make sure to give your­self plenty of time to really contemplate and explore your principles and ideas. Be as concise or elaborate with your answers as […]

Another compelling way to strengthen and maintain your motivation to quit porn is to be honest with yourself about how using porn prevents you from living up to your core values and beliefs and meeting your life goals. We know from our counseling work that former porn users are well on their way out of […]

Set aside an hour when you won’t be distracted by anything else to answer the following questions: 1. What problems has porn caused me in the past? 2. What problems am I experiencing today because of my porn use? 3. How has porn changed me in ways I don’t like? 4. How does my porn […]

This strategy involves recognizing and staying connected with the seri­ous consequences and problems you have already experienced, as well as identifying what future problems continued porn use could bring. The more you are consciously aware of the specific ways porn has hurt you in the past, continues to damage your life in the present, and […]

Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude. —T homas Jefferson W e don’t need to tell you it’s a good idea to quit porn. You’ve probably already considered this yourself. When the negative consequences of porn […]

Twenty-six-year-old Tom lives alone and works in a drugstore. He has been in recovery for three years. His life had revolved around porn for as long as he can remember. “My dad kept a stash of hundreds of Playboys, Hustlers, and Penthouses in a cabinet in our garage,” Tom said. “I stole from his stuff […]